Having a bad day can be a judgment call on your part.

If you're having a bad day, here's how to stop it dead in its tracks

When you're having a bad day, it seems as if one unlucky break piles up on top of another.

For singles, bad days can turn into bad weeks, bad months, and a bad life. But only if you let them.

No, this isn't a lecture about positive thinking or optimism or affirmations. Especially not affirmations. Yikes!

I've had plenty of "bad" days when I woke up with a sinus headache, banged my elbow getting dressed, froze my fingers scraping the ice off my car windshield, then had something break at my house that required a costly repair.

How I wish I had all my "bad" days back, to live over.

I would exercise the truth that there's something good about every day, no matter how things seem to be going. Even when I was frustrated and angry at life, one great truth stood out, but I was too immature to take hold of it:

No matter what happens, God is always
for me.

Of course, God is always for you, too. That simple truth is a candle when everything else is darkness. It's a stark reminder that the worse the tragedy, the stronger God's love and support.

When you're having a bad day, it's tempting to blame God instead of thanking him for being there for you.

Don't turn yourself into a victim

Please, please don't do what I did for much of my life and develop a victim mentality. Don't let yourself think you're a victim of bad luck or that the world's out to get you.

I've said over and over on inspiration-for-singles.com that how we respond to events is more important than the events themselves. Let's not be idiots and say that a bad diagnosis from your doctor is an opportunity to grow or that losing your job is the best thing that could happen to you.

But on the other hand, let's not catastrophize everything either.

If you're having a bad day and want to stop it, then quit overreacting to every potentially stressful event. By complaining that you're so stressed out, you set yourself up for a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If you can cultivate the ability to say, "Huh! This is inconvenient, but God and I can handle it," you turn "bad" events into solvable problems.

Yep, that may be easier said than done when you're having a bad day, but isn't it better than the alternative? We can always think of somebody who has it much, much worse than we do. That doesn't remove our problems, but it does put them in the proper perspective.

Time to put your foot down

When you put down your foot and decide to stop having a bad day, you'll find, to your surprise, that it actually works! Most of the things we let ourselves get upset over seem unimportant a week later, and a couple months later, we can't even remember them.

So don't be like I was. Take the term "bad day" out of your vocabulary right now, and the earlier in your life the better.

Let the Holy Spirit help you handle whatever life throws your way. Know, deep in your being, that when God is for you, you're not a victim any more.

Make a vow to be grateful and expect the best.

You'll be very surprised how those "bad days" start to disappear.

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