Second guessing God is a common but fruitless activity

Second guessing God is a game many of us singles play, and after a lifetime of this mental debate, we become pretty good at it.


The problem is that it's a colossal waste of time. And effort. And energy. We fall into the pit of "What if?" and stay there until some other disappointment trumps the last one.

Second guessing God is a fight for control

Second guessing God is a game singles play.

Of course, second guessing is limited to those singles who actually believe in God. Still, it's a remarkably common activity, because as much as we try to deny it, we all want to be God. Adam and Eve did, and things haven't changed much since.

We want to be in control. We want to have the steering wheel. When you're on a scary trip--and that's what life often is--you usually think you're a better driver than God. Maybe he'll miss something. Maybe he'll take a detour you don't like. Sometimes we even think he's fallen asleep at the wheel.

If you watch a lot of commericals, they'll often hint that if you buy their product, you'll be in control. Dandruff or underarm odor and frizzy hair or bad breath won't be in control of your body--you will.

Ah, how comforting.

Second guessing God shows lack of trust

Did you notice in the previous section how easy it is to doubt God's driving skills? After all, he's older than, well...anybody, and we're relatively young and on our toes. And there are so many factors involved, and he's got billions of other people to worry about, and on and on.

You probably don't know how to fly a jet passenger plane, so you feel better with a trained pilot at the controls. Ironically, we don't give the same trust to the omnipotent being who created the entire universe. We'll trust some pilot we don't even know with our life, but not the One who loves us more than anyone else anywhere.

We have lots of handy reasons:

  • "God doesn't understand how I feel."

  • "God works too slowly."

  • "God wants me to obey lots of strict rules."

  • "God only helped people in Bible times."

  • "God probably won't give me what I want."

Trusting God is both the most important and the scariest part of Christianity. It goes against our nature to put our faith in what we can't see.

Trusting God takes time

I wish I had started trusting God earlier in my life, but I kept using those excuses listed above. I thought I knew best.

As we grow older, we're able to put our life in perspective. It's like being in a helicopter that climbs higher: You get a different perspective on things, a wider view of the 'Big Picture.' If we're honest and objective, we begin to understand our life better because the passage of time gives us distance.

The potential "perfect" spouse who got away wasn't so perfect after all. In fact, marriage to that person might have been a living hell. That "dream" job we missed out on might have consumed us and turned us into a climber who stepped on anyone to get ahead. That illness we overcame was not a curse from God but a normal occurrence that happens to a large percentage of people.

    If we allow the Holy Spirit to give us wisdom, we realize that lucky breaks we had were not really luck, but God working in his mysterious way to protect and love us.

We begin to see that atheists actually do believe in a god: themselves. We understand that prayers that were answered "no" were to protect us from selfishness.

Second guessing God loses its appeal

Christianity is a process. We may get saved all at once, but we continue growing in our faith all our life. At least we should.

The more we learn about God, the less second guessing him will appeal to us. We come to see that it's an insult to the One who has our best interest at heart, who loves us unconditionally, who made the ultimate sacrifice of his only Son for us, and who always does the right thing.

God is not like us humans. He doesn't bumble about in trial and error. He doesn't make decisions based on incomplete or misinterpreted information. And he's too holy to be spiteful or vindictive.

But we don't realize those truths when we're young. And some people, sadly, never realize them at all because they're not willing to let God be God. They want to conform him to their image instead of paying attention to how he reveals himself through Jesus Christ, in the Bible.

When you can say, "I don't like the way this came out, but I trust you, Lord," you're on your way. When you can say, "God, you closed that door but I'll watch for the next one you open," your days of second guessing God are coming to an end. You're moving from fear to faith.


Peeking behind God's curtain

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God isn't as mysterious as many people believe.

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