When your life is miserable, how can you change things?

In a sense, you can. This is not a trick, a joke, or some complicated, unachievable process. Rather, it's a workable solution that few people ever use.

If your life is miserable, you think almost everything about it is bad. You hate your job, you're dissatisfied with the way you look, you're tired of your friends, you're even sick of where you live. In short, life stinks.

Or does it?

When you need power...

On our own, we can't generate much power. I'm not talking about electrical power, but spiritual power, and that's the kind you need when you want things to change.

But you can go directly to the power house, the source of all power, which is God.

If you're not a Christian, this comparison won't make much sense to you. But Christians always have the opportunity to receive God's power through prayer.

Comfortable being miserable

Change takes courage. Change takes faith.

Most of all, change means venturing into the unknown, and that can be even scarier than where you are now, even if your life is miserable where you are now.

The big 'R'

It's easy to blame circumstances or other people for your misery. It's always easier to blame everything except yourself.

And maybe you're not to blame. But if you want things to change, you're the one who'll have to take responsibility for making that change happen.

Blame is an easy out. Blaming others and even yourself is counter-productive, though. Blame doesn't get things changed. Taking responsibility to get things changed is what gets things changed.

If I can, so can you

The ideal is probably somewhere inbetween. Pain, even spiritual or emotional pain, is a sign that something is wrong. However, life is never perfect and never will be, so all of us have some difficulties we have to learn to live with.

I have worked unsatisfying jobs for years, waiting for the right time to change. But in one case where I had a sadistic, demeaning boss, I was out of there in less than a year--and into a job that was challenging, fun, and paid 65 percent better!

I've changed jobs, relationships, and cities where I lived. If I can find the courage to do it, you can too. As I explain elsewhere on the site, change is much easier if you have adequate savings.

But if you change and when you change begins with a conviction in your mind: I can do this.

Changing for the better

Sometimes the most important change is being able to look at things in a new way. I know that when I stopped beating myself up, my life began to improve in a dramatic way.

Constructive change requires thought and planning, but you're capable of that, too. Always have another job lined up before you change jobs. Think. Use common sense.

You can do more, be better, and be happier than you've been in the past. But the first step is believing, with God's help, that it's possible.

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