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Toward stronger confidence
April 13, 2022

Battling low self worth is a lifelong fight

If it were not so tragic, it would be funny. I'm talking about the ways people try to solve the problem of low self worth.

The first method involves stuff: "See what I own? Only cool people have this. I'm okay because I could buy this."

Or accomplishments: "I got (fill in award name here)," or "I did this." "That proves I'm special. Um, doesn't it?"

While there's nothing wrong with stuff and doing great things, if you base your self worth on externals, you're heading for a fall. Single friend, it took me decades, and I mean decades to figure out that trap. I won't be angry if you think I'm a slow learner, but as Illinois' favorite president Abraham Lincoln said, "I am a slow walker, but I never walk backwards."

If the specter of low self worth ever sneaks into your life, read more on the permanent solution to low self worth.

Seek ye the Lord

Every day you make decisions
in this life you have to lead.
Many voices try to sway you
with the things they say you need.

Buy our phone! Buy our car!
Buy your self esteem.
Use your easy credit card;
you can buy your dream.

But dreams don't come from idols
that rust and fade away.
And happiness is not for sale
no matter what they say.

Seek ye the Lord.
He'll conquer all your fears.
Seek ye the Lord.
He'll wipe away your tears.
Seek ye the Lord.
Your worries he'll destroy.
Seek ye the Lord.
He'll fill your heart with joy.

More precious than a diamond,
more pure than finest gold,
is the friendship of the Savior,
so come into his fold.

Seek ye the Lord.
His love will make you whole.
Seek ye the Lord.
His cross will save your soul.
Seek ye the Lord.
He promises new birth.
Seek ye the Lord.
That's where you'll find your worth.

~ Jack Zavada,, 2022 ~

How to know if you're about to make a mistake

What's better than learning from your mistakes? Learning from the mistakes of others!

When I wrote Hope for Hurting Singles, I wanted readers to not only learn from my mistakes, but also from the mistakes of other people I'd been observing closely for 40 years. I began to recognize patterns that were like warning lights that something bad was going to result.

I coupled that with solid principles from the Bible and came up with a guide for making wise decisions. But Hope for Hurting Singles is so much more.

It's filled with proven guidance for dealing with such problems as:

  • Loneliness,
  • Depression,
  • Anger and frustration,
  • Anxiety,
  • Bitterness,
  • Low self esteem and
  • Envy.

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    QOTM: The point is clear

    April's Quote of the Month comes from Robert S. McGee, from his classic book, The Search for Significance:

    We don't have to have success or anyone else's approval. Of course, it would be nice to have success and approval, but the point is clear: Christ is the source of our security; Christ is the basis of our worth; Christ is the only one who promises and never fails.

    ~ Robert S. McGee ~

    The younger you are when you grasp that Christ is the meaning of life, the more content you'll be. Look, there's nothing wrong with wanting a nice car, a comfortable home and attractive clothes, but none of those things can fill the hole inside your heart.

    Trust me. I tried them!

    When things get bad in your life, and someday they'll get very, very bad, only Jesus has the power to sustain you. You can lose everything except him. He never goes away. Thank God, he holds onto you and me no matter what.

    If you haven't already put Jesus in First Place in your life, reorder your priorities and do it today. It will be the wisest decision you ever make.

    Easter: Nope. Not about bunnies

    Leave it to the world to make Christmas about shopping. Leave it to the world to turn the holiest day of the year into a kids' holiday about candy and colored eggs.

    For us singles, Easter represents the most encouraging words we could ever hear: He is risen!

    As the Bill Gaither song says, "Because he lives, I can face tomorrow." The resurrection of Jesus Christ was the turning point in human history.

    We singles have hope in an eternal life where all our desires will be fulfilled. It will be the life we wanted but could never have on a sin-stained Earth. No matter how many millions of people deny the truth about Jesus Christ, they can't cancel what happened.

    Jesus was raised from the dead. He is the Source of eternal life. This Easter, give thanks for our Savior and his incredible love for you.

    Prayer: Like beating your fists against a brick wall?

    See if you can relate to this:

    • When you pray, you rarely seem to get what you ask for.

    • You don't feel a connection with God.

    • You've been asking for the same things so long and not getting them, it's like beating your bare fists against a brick wall.

    Those are some of the feelings I have had over the course of my life. I still have many of those emotions today. Praying can be really hard.

    I wish it was different. I wish I could get my will more in line with God's will for me. I wish I were not so selfish. Actually, I have prayed to not be selfish, but my sinful nature isn't going away in this lifetime.

    At least I'm making some progress. But I do have a few thoughts to pass along.

    God's on the same side of that brick wall with you. You don't have to fight to reach him. He's right inside you, as the Holy Spirit. It's his job to listen to your prayers, then take them to Jesus. We can't always feel him, but he is there.

    God doesn't explain himself. He's God. He doesn't owe us an explanation, so the sooner we accept that, the smarter we'll be. I know. Not understanding why is frustrating, but that's how it works. Demanding an explanation is like beating your head against a brick wall. I still have the lumps from trying that.

    No matter how you feel, God loves you. I've been angry at God, perplexed by him, and even doubted him. He's still there. He keeps us breathing and going. He doesn't hold our frustration against us. All we need to do is look at a cross to remind ourselves just how much he loves us.

    You know, every month when I work on these newsletters, I try hard to come up with something practical and relevant for your life. I hope I'm hitting the mark. If they help—or if they don't—you can email me using our secure contact form.

    So there's the April issue, single friend. Lee Strobel told a good story recently on the John Ankerberg Show. He said a 17 year-old boy had experienced all kinds of illness and surgeries. Lee said the boy had spent 13 of his 17 years in hospitals. When someone asked him how he remained so upbeat, the boy said, "Hey, God's got all of eternity to make it up to me."

    How 'bout that? Happy Easter!

    Jack Zavada
    PS: Not a Christian? Find out how to become one!

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