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Are singles losers?"
October 16, 2018

October 16, 2018 Issue #151

Are singles losers?

If you haven't heard it, you've probably felt it. Singles are losers. Some people come right out and say it, but even when they don't, many of us feel like losers because we're among The Unchosen.

To my knowledge, no Singles Rights organization has come out and demanded people stop shaming unmarried people. No celebrity has taken on single-shaming as their pet cause. Despite the fact that nearly half the adult population is never married, divorced, or widowed, it's still open season on us for bullying.

This month's feature article jumps right into this controversy. Let's explore the question: Are singles losers?

Can't put me down

Travel the planet,
It's always the same.
People still playing
Their sad little game.

They never grow up,
They never get wise.
They have to have someone
They can despise.

Hate keeps them going
It's deep in their bones.
Sometimes it's words
Sometimes sticks and stones.

No, you can't put me down.
My whole armor is strong
Your darts just bounce off me
All day long.
Yeah, I am still standing
Still holding my ground.
You're wasting your time
'Cause you can't put me down.

From caves to the Internet
Minds are still small.
In ten thousand years
Nothing's changed at all.

But I am still standing
Still holding my ground.
You're wasting your time
'Cause you can't put me down.

~ Jack Zavada,, 2018 ~

What's behind your most painful emotions?

Why do you get lonely? Depressed? Angry? Is it just because you're single, or is there more to it?

Hope for Hurting Singles helps you see behind the curtain of what's really going on with your emotions. What's more, it gives you proven, practical steps to take to overcome the problems that are making you unhappy.

Hope for Hurting Singles was 45 years in the making. I gathered all my experience in the single life, both good and bad, and distilled it into simple principles you can use to make meaningful changes.

I think there’s real value in that, a much greater value than the $10.99 cover price plus shipping.

Friends, Hope for Hurting Singles: A Christian Guide to Overcoming Life's Challenges is proven, practical advice on the problems we all face, information that will save you pain.

You'll find proven tips to help you climb out of such ruts as:

  • Loneliness
  • Shyness
  • Rejection
  • Depression
  • Self-esteem
  • Fear
  • Bitterness
  • Peace of Mind
  • Faith

Whether you’re looking for that special someone or not, Hope for Hurting Singles: A Christian Guide to Overcoming Life's Challenges will simply help you be happy instead of sad. And that is better.

David Jeremiah has October's QOTM

For October's Quote of the Month, we turn to Dr. David Jeremiah, pastor, author, and host of the TV and radio program "Turning Point":

If you are a Christian, your search for approval should be over.
~ David Jeremiah (1941 - ) ~

Most of us don't get it. On bad days, I don't get it. The deepest truth of life is that when you are accepted by God, the struggle is over. All striving for that missing "something" is finished. Our problem is that we just don't take this truth to heart.

God is as good as it gets. As human beings, we chase after the applause of other human beings, all the while forgetting God is cheering us on 24/7/365/eternity. Compared to the love of people, God's love is like Niagara Falls compared to the drip from a faucet.

Need a reminder? Look at a cross. You'll see them on church steeples and in your Bible. I have one in my bedroom so I can look at it first thing in the morning and last thing at night. I've got pep in my step because I'm approved by God. How about you?

For anyone who is ashamed to be single…

Boy, do we want to fit in. We long for everyone's approval and feel lousy when we don't get it. And that isn't confined to just single people.

Look around and you'll see most of the population trying to be cool, suave, hip, or whatever the current term is. Some people spend all their money and go into debt trying. Is singleness something to be ashamed of? Depending on your culture, it may, indeed, be considered misfortune. As far as we've come, the world still has prejudices against our unmarried status.

But there are flaws in that logic. Serious flaws. Here's a mega-dose of encouragement if you're ashamed to be single.

Can single people leave a legacy? You bet!

Some day you and I will be gone. Have you ever thought about the legacy you'll leave?

That doesn't need to be a morbid thought. In fact, it's exciting thinking about what we can do to make things better for humanity after we're gone. For many of us, it will be our work. Here are some famous single people who have touched our lives with their work:

  • Jane Austen
  • Louisa May Alcott
  • Florence Nightingale
  • Clara Barton
  • Henry David Thoreau
  • Orville & Wilbur Wright
  • Harper Lee
  • Oprah Winfrey
  • Mother Teresa
  • Linda Ronstadt
  • John the Baptist
  • Paul of Tarsus
  • Jesus Christ

You don't need to be a famous author, entertainer, or inventor to leave a legacy. There are many ways to do it. Volunteer or donate to a worthwhile charity. Teach someone a skill. Help fight hunger, poverty and injustice. Help support missionaries. Even small donations count.

Start thinking about this now, fellow single. You and I have benefited from the help of others. Our legacy is to pass it along.

That wraps up our October Inspire-O-Gram. I hope it spoke to your heart. Your email comments will be forwarded directly to my inbox when you use our secure contact form.

Thanks for reading. The winter holidays are approaching, typically a tough time for singles. Watch for a few tips to make things easier.

Until November,

Jack Zavada
401 Indiana Ave
Streator, IL 61364 USA

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