February 8, 2011 Issue #059

Valentine's Day strategy
to keep you sane!

Yes, fellow singletons, this month contains that fateful date so many of us dread, Valentine's Day. If you don't have a significant other, or whatever the heck they call them lately, you can get pretty down in the Dumpster on February 14.

But it doesn't have to be that way, does it? No, of course not! That's because you--yes, you--who had the good taste and brains to subscribe to Inspire-O-Gram, have an extraordinary noggin on your neck, and you know how to use it.

You won't be manipulated by Valentine's Day hype. You won't be made to feel less than if you don't have a honey this year. And you definitely won't get depressed and eat a barrel of Haagen-Dazs thinking that will help.

Instead, you'll use that genius-class noggin of yours to rise above the usual guilt-trip, because you'll have read these thoughts on how to stop and think

Gonna find my love

I am searching, always searching
for the one thing I can't find.
I can't seem to stop this searching,
makes me think I've lost my mind.

I am wondering, always wondering
if my heart's dream can come true.
I can't seem to stop my wondering,
some days that's all I can do.

But there's a person and a promise,
the one I'm dreaming of.
There's a place where I will fit in
like a hand inside a glove.
Oh I know I'll get there some day
with some help from God above.
I never will surrender
'cause I'm gonna find my love.

There are days when I know heartbreak
and days when I feel joy.
But my faith is like a guiding star
that nothing can destroy.

I just have to keep on going,
it's the one thing I must do.
'til I find the thing I'm after
and my lonely life is through.

There's a person and a promise,
yeah the one I'm dreaming of.
There's a place where I will fit in
like a hand inside a glove.
Oh I know I'll get there some day
with some help from God above
No I never will surrender
'cause I'm gonna find my love.

--Jack Zavada, 2011--

How to see your life clearly

If you wear eyeglasses or contacts, you know that without them, your world is blurry and out of focus. The same can be true of the single life.

Looking at it through the wrong lens gives you a distorted view of what's real. The wrong lens is the influence of the world. The right lens is the influence of God's Word, the Bible.

Single & Sure, my ebook, will help you use the Bible to keep your life in the right perspective. It's packed with lessons I learned during my 40 years in the single life. And, it's only $9.97, less than the price of 4 of those fancy-schmancy lattes. There's nothing nutty in it. I'm not a religious fanatic. It's just common sense, down-to-earth stuff it took a lot of time to learn.

    "It's life changing material, and I'll be sure to keep it handy to reflect on. Thank you so much for taking the time to write it." Tim S., New York, USA

Don't guess. Don't pile up regrets. Benefit from my experience and learn what will make you happy and what will make you miserable. Happiness is possible for single people--for you! Check out the contents of Single & Sure

February Quotarama

February's quotation comes from American rabbi and Jewish theologian Abraham Heschel:

"When I was young, I admired clever people.
Now that I am old, I admire kind people."

-- Abraham Joshua Heschel (1907-1972)

I'll be 60 in May, so I guess that qualifies me for old nowadays. But I feel exactly like this guy. Clever, schmever. Anybody can be clever. Now, kind, that's a different story.

Kindness is such a rare thing you'd think it cost people money every time they practiced it. In fact, people think nothing about flipping open their cell phone, which does cost them money, but they can be downright stingy with kindness.

This Valentine's Day, be kind to people. People you don't even know. People you may never see again. People who look like they're starved for kindness and those who don't look like it, because kindness is a form of love, and we could all use more of that.

Like poems? Here's a heap more

It's a surprise to me, but our monthly poem is one of the most popular features of Inspire-O-Gram. It's like the time I asked one of my former girlfriends what she saw in me, and she replied, "Jack, there's no accounting for taste."

Each back issue of this newsletter contains a poem you won't find anywhere else. I wonder why? Anyway, if you'd like to read more poems, take a trip back in time to our back issues page

Mary's cure for loneliness

My friend Mary G. in New Zealand, one of the kindest people I know, reminded me that your Valentine doesn't have to be someone of the opposite sex. Here's her encouraging story of how making a friend filled a place in her heart

And that wraps up my eValentine to you, fellow singles. As usual you can pass your thoughts along using our wrinkle-free contact form.

As I close, we're digging out from two feet of fresh snow here in Illinois, USA. For those of you in tropical climates who have never seen snow, trust me, you get tired of it.

Until our March issue, thank God for all the good things in your life, and if you stop and think, you know there really are many.

God's best to you,

Jack Zavada

401 Indiana Ave
Streator, IL 61364 USA