May 22, 2012 Issue #074

Are the things you get angry over spoiling your happiness?

Let's admit it, fellow singletons. We all get angry over trivial stuff. I find myself getting bent out of shape because my friend has a dumb habit of twiddling his thumbs (no, really!). I get perturbed when I see an old man with bushels of ear hair. And I get irked when people talk on their cell phones in restaurants.

Okay, so I'm trying to do better. I'm trying to let that nonsense go and not be such a picky old curmudgeon myself. In our year-long study of happiness, it hit me recently that many of us (including me) sabotage our good days by letting unimportant things upset us.

This is something we can change! This is something we can correct, and when we do, we'll be happier singles! This month let's look at the minor things we get angry over…

Carry this with you

I know there are times
when you feel all alone.
When you have to face troubles
and pain on your own.

But feelings aren't facts;
they're not always true.
You're not alone because
I'm always with you.

Carry this with you
wherever you go.
No one on earth
can cherish you so.
No one else gave up
his life for you.
No one can love you
as much as I do.

I'm standing beside you
through heartache and tears.
My hand's on your shoulder
through all of your fears.

I know you can't see me
but I am still there.
I'll never desert you.
That's how much I care.

So carry this with you
wherever you go.
Whenever you're frightened
I want you to know.
I'm your Friend and Protector.
I'll keep you from harm.
Until the day comes
when you're safe in my arms.

~Jack Zavada, 2012~

They're mini but they're big!

It's been a while since I've plugged our f'ree Mini-Encouragers. These little gems are no bigger than a greeting card, yet they're packed with hope and, well, encouragement.

You can choose from three: "God is Your Biggest Fan," "When God Seems Far Away," and "You Can't Let Failure Stop You." Or hey, pick them all, because they're absolutely F-R-E-E!

They're in PDF format. Just print them out and tuck them in an envelope to send to a friend who's down. Pack one into a special person's lunch. Or sneak one onto the desk of a coworker who needs a boost.

You'll find the Mini-Encouragers on this page…

May Quoto-rooter

May's quotation comes from George Santayana, philosopher and writer:

It takes patience to appreciate domestic bliss;
volatile spirits prefer unhappiness.

~ George Santayana (1863-1952) ~

By domestic bliss, I don't think he's necessarily referring to marriage, but to home life. This ties in perfectly with this month's feature article.

You can continue to be a "volatile spirit" if you want. You can pop your cork, give people a piece of your mind, and stew over slights and imagined offenses. But don't blame anyone else for your unhappiness.

Change your attitude and change your life. If you see the world as a welcoming place filled with friends instead of enemies, the world gradually transforms itself before your eyes.

Once and for all: Can you buy happiness?

Nope. You can't buy happiness. Millions have tried, but it doesn't work. You can, however, buy less unhappiness, and that's what my ebook, Outsmarting Loneliness is all about.

You'll learn how to stop sabotaging yourself, and in the process you'll be unhappy less often, opening the way to be happy more often.

Outsmarting Loneliness shows you, in clear, doable steps, how to manage your loneliness, and the word manage is important. I've learned, in my 40 years as a single adult, that we can't eliminate loneliness. It's part of the human condition. But we can learn how to control it, and I show you how.

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Highway to Happyville

Okay, fellow singletons, as we skip along the pothole-filled road to Happyville, here's this month's nonsense to brighten your journey.

Q. Why do bagpipers walk when they play?
A. They're trying to get away from the noise.

Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.
~ Dale Carnegie ~

When I was a boy the Dead Sea was only sick.
~ George Burns ~

I like long walks, especially when they are taken by people who annoy me.
~ Noel Coward ~

I don't kill flies but I like to mess with their minds. I hold them above globes. They freak out and yell, 'Whoa, I'm way too high!'
~ Bruce Baum ~

My opponent says I'm two-faced. If I were two-faced, would I be wearing this one?
~ Abraham Lincoln ~

On cable TV they have a weather channel - 24 hours of weather. We had something like that where I grew up. We called it a window.
~ Dan Spencer ~

For every minute you are angry you lose sixty seconds of happiness.
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson ~

I didn't like the play, but then I saw it under adverse conditions. The curtain was up.
~ Groucho Marx ~

If you love someone set them free. If they come back, set them on fire.
~ George Carlin ~

Never put off till tomorrow what you can do the day after tomorrow.
~ Mark Twain ~

My mechanic told me, "I couldn't repair your brakes, so I made your horn louder."
~ Steven Wright ~

Q. Why is that cat so small?
A. It only drinks condensed milk.

Money is not the most important thing in the world. Love is. Fortunately, I love money.
~ Jackie Mason ~

Will it matter a hundred years from now?

As we bring this month's newsletter on getting angry to a close, here's a good question to ask yourself when you're tempted to go on a rant: "Will it matter a hundred years from now?"

Remarkably, some things will matter, because they'll affect how someone else's (or their children's or grandchildren's) life comes out. But the acid test is trying to remember what honked you off a year ago. Completely forgotten and meaningless now, huh?

Don't sacrifice your happiness
to emotional lint.

I hope you found this Inspire-O-Gram worthwhile. You can always toss your digital bouquets or brickbats at me using our 100% polyester contact form.

Thanks for reading. If you're on the top half of this planet, enjoy your summer. If you're on the bottom half, well, bundle up!

See you in June,

Jack Zavada
401 Indiana Ave
Streator, IL 61364 USA