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One of the regrets I have in life is that I didn't go after the things I wanted as vigorously as I should have. Except for my writing, I did not apply the energy and drive I should have.
I'm not blaming God, but I think many of us Christians expect him to do more than his part. We need to step out in faith first sometimes. I recently read a biography of Joan of Arc, a remarkable single woman, and was struck by her personal motto:
Most of us singles are assertive in our careers. We actively seek promotions and better wages. We do have to be careful not to turn our career into our god, however.
Being single poses a real danger of pouring your life into a job that can turn around and bite you in the...well, maybe you've already gone through that.
The opposite can be true, too. Because we don't have a spouse to encourage us, we might stay in a dead-end job, simply because it's...comfortable. Ruts can be hard to climb out of. Now I always advocate having another job waiting before quitting where you are now. It's foolish to leave without a steady source of income available.
But if you live in a state of job dissatisfaction, it's time to make a decision. Don't expect anyone else to do it for you. Don't expect a great job offer to drop down out of the blue. Real life doesn't work that way.
Change is hard. Starting a new job is intimidating. If we look only at the problems, we'll never step out and do anything new in life.
Be aggressive. Read and study on how to get a job. You'll find plenty of free material at your public library. Be your own cheerleader when you get rejected. Develop a thick skin and realize that's all part of the process.
Stop making excuses and blaming other factors. You can get a better job if you really want to.
When it comes to being happy and finding a spouse, single women cannot expect a visit from Prince Charming, and single men cannot expect the girl of their dreams to come knocking on their door. That's fairy tale stuff, folks!
Once we get it through our heads (and it took me a long time to learn this) that we are responsible for our own happiness, we've taken a major step toward that goal. Millions of sad people go through their entire life and never understand that. You're getting that truth right here, right now.
Sorry if I sound preachy, but this is so important I want you to think about it all week until it becomes part of you.
Happiness is out there. You can get more than your share, but you simply must help yourself.