Running from Jesus is one way singles try to avoid confrontation

We singles don't recognize that much of our life is spent running from Jesus.

Part of our problem--and this is one of the traits of all humans--is that we're independent types. Living alone, we get to set our own schedule and indulge our own interests. We don't want anyone, including Jesus, telling us what to do.

Singles who have been successful in their careers may get the wrong-headed notion that they don't need anybody else's help.

running from Jesus

Too busy for God?

Busyness has turned into today's excuse for a life. We overschedule, never say no to requests to serve, and cram our waking hours so full that we're on a treadmill that never stops.

One symptom of running from Jesus is that you don't have time to pray. Not talking to someone is the ultimate way of ignoring them.

Another symptom is that you don't read the Bible as often as you should (which is every day). The Gospels are Christ's love letters to you, but if you're too busy to read them, you're missing one of the most important gifts in life.

Too busy having a good time

A sinful lifestyle is another way of running from Jesus. Most of us don't consider ourselves wicked or evil, but we may be doing wicked or evil acts.

Today people engage in a lot of behavior because their peers think it's cool. But cool isn't always Christlike.

Maybe you're running from Jesus in just one area of your life. You don't want to deal with one particular sin because you enjoy it too much. We're all guilty of that, including me.

But let's get one thing straight: Jesus Christ does not want half-hearted followers:

"No one who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is fit for service in the kingdom of God."(Luke 9:62)

If you're protecting a favorite sin, ask the Holy Spirit to show you why. If you're honest with him, you're in for quite a revelation. But the only way to solve a problem is to admit it exists in the first place.

We singles, who don't have anyone watching us every minute, can get into some pretty nasty habits. If you'd be ashamed to have Jesus show up in person to catch you doing it, remember that he's already there anyway, as omnipresent God in the life of all believers.

Yeah. Yikes!

Running to the New Age

Cradle Christians (those who were born into the faith) and converts sometimes drift. Some denominations call it backsliding.

Today, millions of them have slipped into New Age beliefts. It's easy, really. There aren't a lot of rules or even commandments.

The New Age "God" is far less demanding than Yahweh. There are all kinds of neat things to play with, like manifesting, yoga, TM, channeling, seances, and even witchcraft. Just about anything goes, as long as it doesn't get violent.

The problem, of course, is that none of it is true. It's all running from Jesus, because he calls us to choose for him or against him. He's forgiving, but he, his Father, and the Holy Spirit will not be mocked.

They laid out the choice in the First Commandment: "I am the Lord your shall have no other gods before me." (Exodus 20:2-3).

The New Age stew of gods, higher powers, Universe, and whoever else don't qualify. Don't let anyone fool you. New Age is not compatible with Christianity.

Running from being honest
with the Truth himself

Sometimes we're running from Jesus because we don't want to have a showdown with him. We're angry over being single. We're bitter. We've been hurt deeply and we're afraid we'll unload it all on him.

Here's the truth, though:

Jack's truths for thriving.

An intimate, personal relationship with Jesus Christ demands that you be completely honest with him
in every single area of your life.

Sometimes the best honesty is crying. Many times I've been so disappointed with God that it led me to sobbing. You don't think a prayer like that gets God's attention?

A dear friend, an old Catholic nun and the wisest woman I've ever known, once told me, "Tell God how mad you are with him. He's big. He can take it."

That's when honesty goes from being a stumbling block to being a building block. The moment you stop running from Jesus and open your broken heart to him is the moment you start to heal.

Take it from me. It will be a painful experience, but one that you'll never regret.

What you get when you stop and go back

When you stop running from Jesus and turn around and go back to him, however hesitantly, you will get a welcome you never expected.

He wants to pour more love into your heart than you can hold, so it overflows to other people.

He wants you to know how priceless you are to him. He wants to heal you and make you clean and well again. He wants to be your helper, comforter, guide and rescuer every single moment of your life.

Someone once said that we humans are strange: The more lost we are, the faster we run.

It's easy to run, even when it's taking you in the opposite direction of where you want to be. Stop. Go back.

Once you open yourself to the gigantic love Jesus has for you, you'll hang up your running shoes for good.

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