Do you feel unappreciated?
Do you work hard and treat people decently only to feel unloved and neglected?
It's a common reaction among single people (especially single parents), but what do you do when you feel that way? How should you respond when you feel you've been cheated in life?
Resentment is cumulative, and if you're not careful, it can turn into bitterness. That makes you old before your time and makes people avoid you. There's a certain satisfaction in it, I suppose, but the consequences are deadly.
You can act as if it doesn't matter how you feel, but deep down, you know it does. You're only lying to yourself.
Fixing what's wrong in your life is often painful, like surgery. Once you recuperate from the initial trauma, however, you realize you corrected a serious problem that was only going to get worse. Let's take a gentle look at what's really going on.
Your boss isn't the only one who is stingy with compliments. Your family, friends, and coworkers may hold back on telling you how much you matter or that you're doing a good job.
Sometimes there's a bit of spite at work. People get an odd satisfaction out of not giving you what you want. Maybe they think they can control you that way.
When it comes to love, many folks act as if they have a limited supply. They're afraid that if they give some to you, they won't have enough for themselves.
The lower a person's self worth, the more likely they are to be tight with praise. Especially in the case of a boss, you can't let their problem become your problem.
Really, when you undervalued, going to God is the only true solution. Now if you're not a Christian, you're going to feel constantly frustrated if you're looking for love and appreciation from other people. Oh, you may get some, but not enough to satisfy your need.
We're all hungry for love (though we're too proud to admit it), and the only adequate supply of it is from Jesus Christ. Ouch! That Christian stuff again, you may think.
Let me ask you this: If you felt unappreciated enough to read
this article, would you also agree that what's going on in your life now
isn't working? Here's the bottom line. There is a God, he is Jesus, and he loves and appreciates you so much that you'll never be able to absorb it all in this lifetime.
I don't mean to beat you over the head with Christianity, but I promised that I would give you the truth on this web site as I know it, and after decades of searching, I sincerely believe Christ is the truth.
Jesus has a rare understanding of what it's like to be unappreciated. Many of his listeners rejected his teachings. The Pharisees and Sadducees rejected him as Messiah. At the time, even his disciples were unable to appreciate the sacrifice he made for our sins.
He's well acquainted with the hurt and loneliness you feel. Too often we singles struggle, thinking nobody cares. Jesus does. He definitely does. I've said it before but it bears repeating: He is not an imaginary friend, a figment of our imagination, or a myth created by the early church.
He is real, he is God, and he loved you enough
to go to the cross for you.
I can't always feel his love for me, and I know you can't either, but we have to believe the truth, what he said and did for us, instead of our feelings. If you have a cross in your home, it helps to look at it when you feel unappreciated.
Jesus died for you once, but his love for you is ongoing--for eternity. That's appreciation.
Grab this truth. Sink it into your brain and let it seep into your heart. God's opinion of you is the one that really counts. You are precious and valuable to him.
You're loved, deeply and powerfully. You are appreciated.
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