Feelings of inadequacy keep many singles from stepping out in life
Feelings of inadequacy plague many single people, boxing them into a limited life.
But it doesn't have to be that way. Over time, you can overcome the belief that you're inadequate, so you can live a happier life.
When you've felt inferior most of your life, it becomes an ingrained assumption, so embedded in your personality that it keeps you from trying. You tell yourself, "What's the use? I could never do that."
That's exactly what I told myself for years. When I was in high school, I thought of myself as a geek, a nerd who didn't fit in. My feelings of inadequacy were so strong that I didn't start to date until I was a senior in college.
Imagine my surprise at landing a beautiful, intelligent girl who appreciated me for my personality and my sense of humor. Of course I wasn't a troll, but that's how I thought of myself for a long time.
I also believed that rejection would kill me. Guess what? It didn't!
There's nothing wrong with average
We need to spend more time appreciating who we are, rather than trying to become someone we're not. Don't get me wrong. There's nothing wrong with wearing nice clothes, finding a becoming haircut, dieting, or having your teeth capped.
But don't make yourself miserable because you don't look like a supermodel. I suspect that on the inside, many, many supermodels are very unhappy anyway.
This will take some time
If you've been beating yourself up all your life because you think you don't measure up, it's going to take some time to change. You can't erase that much bad mental programming overnight.
Oddly, some people have found that after they had plastic surgery and were transformed into one of the "beautiful people," they still didn't feel beautiful inside. That's an important lesson for the rest of us.
High self-esteem comes from the inside out. As you disprove your feelings of inadequacy, you'll feel your confidence rise.
Beating inadequacy once and for all
I've said it in many other places on www.inspiration-for-singles.com, but it's worth repeating because it's true:
only one source: an intimate, personal relationship
with Jesus Christ.
"Ooooh," you may say, "I wish that guy would get off that! Does he think Jesus is the answer to everything?"
Yes, yes, I do. Feelings of inadequacy come from a problem with the heart, and the best heart surgeon you'll ever find is Jesus Christ.
This is so important that it's one of the few truths I repeat on this site several times.
So don't be fooled by your feelings of inadequacy. As a wise person once said, "Feelings are not facts." Just because you feel inadequate doesn't mean you are.
Each of us has God-given strengths and gifts. Search for yours and work to develop them. Ask God for help. Ask him to show you the truth about yourself.
You'll find, as I did, that you're much stronger, capable, and lovable than you ever dreamed.