Moodiness is a condition all singles have to fight. How successfully we do that depends on our level of maturity.
We all have emotions, but when this emotional roller coaster takes over, we risk being someone others don't want to be around. You've had to deal with grumpy people. You know how nerve-wracking it can be to cater to their feelings.
Unfortunately, each of us feels we're entitled to be crabby at times. I know I've made that mistake frequently throughout my life. As circumstances seemed to gang up against me, I resented it and often became short-tempered. Needless to say, I wasn't pleasant to be around.
I wish I could tell you I've completely eliminated that attitude from my life, but it's something I have to constantly work at.
You can't solve a problem until you admit it exists. Too often we're not sure enough of ourselves to deal with our flaws. However, the truth is that nobody is perfect, and a truly mature person is willing to acknowledge their imperfections.
We all do a lot of rationalizing--including me. We excuse our nasty behavior, as if we're entitled to snap at other people and generally be a pain in everybody's neck. Sheesh!
To guard your speech, you have to apply the Golden Rule. Ask yourself, "Is what I'm saying to people and the tone I'm using the way I would want to be talked to?"
This self-monitoring isn't easy, but it's absolutely necessary. After you say something mean, you can apologize all you want, but the scar on the other person's heart still remains. They think less of you and maybe always will. It's smarter to stop hurtful words before they come out of your mouth.
You know when you're moody. The simmering anger or frustration are familiar. It's kind of funny to watch a pouting child but scary when an adult give in to it.
Moodiness rarely comes from nowhere. It has causes, and you need to become a detective to hunt down what sets you off. It may be lack of sleep, eating the wrong things, physical pain like a headache or PMS for women, stress, or some personal defeat or slight. Once you recognize that you are moody, you can usually think back on what caused it.
This is one of those situations where a checkup by your doctor is important. This site can give suggestions, but it's no substitute for professional help. Only your doctor can rule out physical causes for your moods.
Maybe it's depression or chronic pain that's triggering your moods. If you need medication, your doctor will recommend it. Recognize some conditions can only be helped by medication and are immune to willpower or self-discipline.
Now for the really hard part: treating others well when you're in a bad mood. As a Christian, I have to rely on the guidance and help of the Holy Spirit to do that.
After decades of Bible study and prayer, I am increasing in my knowledge of God and what he expects of me. Needless to say, he doesn't approve of us being mean-spirited to others.
I'm far from perfect in this. I know it will be a lifelong battle for me, but thank God, I'm at least improving. My faith calls me to try to treat people as Jesus would. That's tough even when I feel good! Remember, though, this is not about me or you; it's about God and what he wants from us.
This is not a copout or a quick-and-simple solution by any means. It's hard work to obey God instead of our feelings, but it starts with the belief that God knows better than we do. Most of us take half a lifetime to learn that. Some people never do.
If you're not a Christian, the best advice I can give you is still the Golden Rule: Treat others as you would like to be treated.
Grit your teeth and stifle the urge to give someone a piece of your mind. Remember the times someone snapped at you and resolve to be better than that. There's too much misery in the world as it is. We don't need to add to it with hurtful words.
Moodiness is one of the most difficult challenges singles face. Part of maturity is struggling through life when you don't feel well, mentally or physically. Those of us who follow Christ have a decided advantage.
In any case, love for others means we don't inflict the kind of hurt that has been directed against us. We can't let our pain become contagious.