Moving on is a necessary part of life

Moving on can be scary.

As a single person, you have undoubtedly learned that moving on is an inescapable part of life.

You got your first hints of this truth in elementary school. Each year you passed and were promoted to the next grade. If your parents moved to a different house or city, you had to move on with them and develop a whole new circle of friends.

The great lesson is that whether good or bad, nothing stays the same. Life keeps moving on.

As a single, you don't always have the wise counsel of a mentor or adviser, so you're often forced to make your own decisions. But as a Christian single, you have the Word of God, the Bible to guide you, and you should always pray to the Holy Spirit for direction. Ultimately, you are the one who has to decide when it's time for moving on.

Failure to move on can cause a tremendous amount of hurt. While we should not be constantly running away from our problems, everything in life has a time and season, and when that season is over, it's time to move on.

Learn from my painful lesson

Single people have an unfortunate tendency to cling to a relationship after it's over. I know that I did that several times in my own life and suffered unnecessarily because of it. I didn't know when to move on. I hope you'll learn from my pain and not keep doing the same thing yourself.

Grief is natural when a cherished relationship ends, but we need to put a limit on it. Moving on takes courage.

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Only when we move on are we able to receive the next good thing God has waiting for us.

If we're a willing prisoner of our past, we miss out on the opportunities of the present. You cannot grasp the things of today if your hand is still full of the things of yesterday. Let them go. Move on.

There's nothing heroic about being controlled by your past. Whether it was a failed relationship, abuse, a former job, or our own sins, we all need to let go and move on. You may need professional help, like a therapist or trusted clergy person, to help you move on.

Life is constantly changing, sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse. Bad situations sometimes resolve themselves, but sometimes we need to have the courage to take action and move on.

When familiar isn't better

Ironically, it's easier to stay with a hurtful situation that's familiar, rather than escape that hurt through something that's unfamiliar and new. If a situation is just difficult or challenging and we find it uncomfortable, it may be that we need to do some growing up to struggle through the hardship. But there are other times when a bigger change is needed.

If you stay stuck, you'll stagnate. Sometimes you need to move on to keep growing.

Paul recognized the need to move on. In 1 Corinthians 13:11, he said:

    When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.

We're all in the process of leaving our childish ways behind us and acting more and more like adults. Children are not wise because they have little experience. But as adults, we do have experience. We need to learn from past mistakes so we don't get hurt again--and yet, love always involves taking the risk that we'll be hurt. It can be scary.

But we're also called to love and respect ourself. We're not to let anyone use us for their punching bag, physically or emotionally. When something ends, we need to look for the lesson, ask God for strength and courage, then move on.

Grudges, bitterness, hatred, anger, disappointment and discouragement over past hurts waste our precious time and energy. If we want to grow more like Christ, we have to move on.

Are you a prisoner of your past today, or are you moving on?

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