How to cure your comparisonitis

Comparisonitis is a common illness that causes you to compare yourself to your friends, co-workers, siblings, and even celebrities.

The problem with comparisonitis is that when you come up short in these comparisons, you can make yourself feel worthless and depressed.

Fortunately there's a cure.

Instead of constantly comparing yourself to people who seem to have more than you, start comparing yourself to those who seem to have less.

Now this change in perspective is not intended to make you feel superior to others or imply that they're inferior to you. But it will help you in two ways.

First, you'll be more grateful for what you do have, and second, you'll be more compassionate and giving toward people who seem to have less.

God made you

Remember that God created you as one-of-a-kind. Proof of that is as close as your fingertips. No one else on the planet has the same fingerprints as you, the same DNA, or even the same ears!

Did you know that every person's ears are unique to them? It's true; no two sets of ears are exactly alike. Wow!

But the real difference between you and everyone else is your soul. It's you and only you. It's God's gift of uniqueness to you.

There's nothing wrong with being inspired by someone successful. However, don't let that inspiration turn into comparisonitis.

Constantly comparing yourself to others will only make you unhappy. Why make yourself unhappy when the better choice is to do things that will make you happy?

More of Jesus = more of you

Instead, celebrate your uniqueness. God doesn't want you to be a copy of another person. His desire is that you become the very best you that you can be.

One of the best ways to do that is to work on developing the character traits of Jesus: his love, his compassion, his honesty, his virtue, his fairness. You'll achieve your highest potential as you cultivate Jesus' qualities in your own life.

When you read the Gospels, you immediately see that Jesus' life wasn't about impressing people; it was about serving them.

Serving and helping others is one of the best ways to overcome comparisonitis. It takes your mind off yourself and puts it on others' needs.

Discover and nurture your talent

Your talents and gifts are unique. If you think you don't have any talents or gifts, it's only because you haven't discovered them yet.

We all have areas in which we can excel. One way to find out where your true talent lies is to reflect on the thing you enjoy doing most.

It may be a hobby, or a skill you use in your job.

You can tell it's a gift when you not only enjoy doing it, but you're also good at it. It feels natural. It gives you a sense of satisfaction and accomplishment.

Read about that subject. Research it. Find experts on it and ask them questions. As you learn more, you'll find ways that you can grow, and perhaps even make money with your talent.

The more enthusiastic you become about your own gift, the less time you'll spend comparing yourself to others.

Make the most of your time here

Each of us has only so much time allotted to us in life. Rather than waste that time trying to copy or outdo another person, we can be Christ for others.

We can let Jesus live in us as we become his hands, his feet, his eyes, and his instrument to bring peace and healing to others.

Eliminate comparisonitis from your life in this way, and you'll become a happier, more contented person.

As you accept God's love, you'll discover that he has a special mission for you that no one else can do. You'll be filled with excitement and hope--because the Creator of the Universe has chosen you to help him in his work.

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